By Gayle Scroggs, PhD, PCC   People can care about you, and still not really know you. And when that happens, you don’t feel loved. You may be partnered, friended, texted, relied upon, admired, included—and still move through each day without ever quite feeling deeply known or emotionally held. Over time, you may stop expecting to feel deeply loved at all. That is the heartache that How to Feel Loved  takes seriously, a new book with a surprising take on a perennial theme. Th

© 2026 By Gayle Scroggs, PhD, PCC Many writers assume that when progress slows, something must be wrong with them.   They tell themselves things like: Maybe I just don’t have the talent for this. Perhaps I’m not really cut out to be a writer. Why can’t I seem to stay motivated? If only I had more discipline .   Most people call this writer’s block .     But that label hides the real problem: friction in the writing process.   When the Wheels Lose Traction   Think about drivin

If you feel exhausted but “didn’t get anything done,” you’re probably undercounting the invisible work you carry every day.   Feeling overwhelmed doesn’t mean you’re failing or falling behind.   More often, it means you’re carrying a heavy load of invisible coordination work .   You’re not just doing tasks. You’re constantly deciding what matters next, restarting after interruptions, adapting when priorities shift, and holding responsibility for people and outcomes over time.

Usually I give tips to help you enjoy life more—and this time I will skip the psychology and go straight to your closet.  I spent over 30 years in New England and upstate New York—and following these principles allowed this Southern Californian to love winter. “There’s no such thing as bad weather. Only the wrong clothes.” ~ Norwegian saying. Every winter, this wisdom is set aside by many U.S. Americans. As the temperature drops, complaints rise: “I hate winter,” “I’m going t